Comments on: Suicide Survivors Guilt

By: robin

robin — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 04:24:03 +0000

Now I understand why you said we had similar stories..(ie. gun/2005)..and like you I kept kicking myself–I should have not let him have his guns–except him & his friends used to go out to the range practice shooting…and in fact he was so safety conscious…he had to tell me correct procedures/handling of guns…..I trusted him completely. One night we joked (i thought) about there was no way he could commit suicide–unless he had very very long arms (his shotgun)…we laughed…if only I had known)!!! thank you for having the strength to share yourself

By: Christa's article featured on Open to Hope | Giggle On!

Christa's article featured on Open to Hope | Giggle On! — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:23:38 +0000

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By: Maria

Maria — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:33:35 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story, Christa. And thank you for giving me the inspiration to put my website out there

By: Christa

Christa — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 18:15:40 +0000

@ Carry – You have been one of my biggest supporters here at Giggle On! & I genuinely appreciate your comment. Many of the folks who kill themselves are suffering from debilitating torment. You hit that nail on the head.

@ Matthew – All I can do is put myself out there with the hope it may help someone else. We all have pain and suffering, whether it’s from depression, loss of a loved one to suicide, postpartum depression, cancer, HIV/AIDS or a host of other ailments and conditions. We pick up the pieces, turn our losses into gains and move on. Such is the journey called life. And that journey is blessed.

@ Karen – I am not sure how you found me but your words brought me GREAT comfort. Your message about “choices” rings true. Jim made a choice and I choose to move on with my life. I hope to see more of you here. Namaste.

@ Susan – your friend Kevin’s story and your love for him touched my heart. Thank you for the compliment, too. I hope to earn your continued support as time goes by. Giggle On my survivor sista! Giggle On!

@ Kiki – thank you for the compliment Kiki. Your post hit me on a day where I needed a lift. Gracias, big time.

By: KiKi

KiKi — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 18:17:32 +0000

Christa -- wow. This is an AMAZING site. This post is so powerful -- thank you so much for sharing. I'm looking forward to reading much more of what you've written. I'm in awe.... KiKis last blog post..Finding Bruce Vilanch (or "How to Dodge a Barbie").

By: susan

susan — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 03:15:23 +0000

Christa, You were kind enough to visit my blog when my friend Kevin suicided. I have been reading your blog tonight, and it is a keeper. I just added you to my RSS feeds. thanks! -Susan susans last blog post..Making peace with the past

By: Karen Murphy

Karen Murphy — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 04:40:30 +0000

In my world, all is choice and there are no wrong choices. We make choices in order to have experiences from which to learn. We have interactions with others so as to give ourselves opportunities to make choices from which to learn.

Your life has changed as a result of this admittedly horrific and shocking experience. You are the person you are today, as evidenced by this blog and your efforts at awareness and understanding, because of that experience. You may have even chosen to continue life because of Jim’s death.

So, is any of that wasted?

You are a living example of the connectedness we feel and know, yet seldom acknowledge.

Also, Jim’s choice was HIS choice. If not then, then perhaps another time, another way. Your actions or inactions likely didn’t change the outcome of HIS life, only yours.

Does knowing this make anything easier? Not really. We are still human and being human means we feel a loss when someone dies. We feel responsible when something happens that we feel we could have changed or prevented. That’s being human.